Hi Darcy.... i'm sorry you feel this way... I don't think your hair color has anything to do with your popularity.... I believe it's all in your head, I mean you think you're ugly and you act like ugly.... I don't know if i'm making any sense.... But believe me - your hair color doesn't make you unattractive. I personally prefer dark hair in women as well as in men. Makes them less... um... trivial, common? (no offence to the blondes out there).
And if you don't like your brown hair so much, why don't you just dye it? Wouldn't it solve the problem?

Hugs,
sparkling