I do not understand the dominant submissive stuff at all, but do understand the desire to be passionately wanted. to me, it seems that the wife expresses that desire when she wants you to throw her down and "ravage" her. It is not about domination. What this seems to be about is that she is tired of being catered to (you postpone your own orgasm to make sure she orgasms first etc.). She simply wants to be wanted, passionately and with abandon. I do not know if it is indeed the case, but it seems to be the case based on what she said about being ravaged. And, she did not mention buying objects - she just wanted to be thrown down. Ask her, of course, but it seems that she simply wants to be desired rather than catered to. If she confirms, then all you want is forget about trying to please her and just enjoy her with passion. Then, you do not need a step-by-step guide at all - there are no "extra" steps for you; you just skip worrying about pleasing her and that is it.