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Originally Posted by rainyday107
Trust is a tricky thing - I find that proceeding slowly in any type of relationship is best for me and that a person's actions speak louder than words.
I had a roommate in college that had difficulty trusting guys because her dad cheated on her mom. She told me that she did not automatically distrust a potential boyfriend ... but that she did not outright trust either. She took a cautious approach by taking things slowly with people to see if they were trustworthy.
I have been betrayed and I am more cautious than I was in my younger years. I used to think all people were inherently good people. Well, I've found that isn't true. But, there are trustworthy people out there.
Take care.
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That's the difference though—I automatically distrust my equivalent of a potential boyfriend. I don't have "potential boyfriends" as no one would ever think of me romantically, but that's a separate issue.
I don't see anything wrong with being cautious and I'm not saying I want to learn how to not be cautious, I just don't want my inability to trust make sure that if someone for some reason (probably desperation), actually thought of me romantically, that it would be possible for me to eventually learn to trust them if they are indeed trustworthy.
So that I could develop friendships and become a person instead of a fortress/object.