Why does it bother people when they find out my husband and I don't sleep in the same room? I don't go around telling everyone I meet, but if I spend enough time with someone, I'm likely to say something that gives it away or I might tell them.

It just seems to freak people out sometimes. Some years back I had a woman (a good woman-trying to be helpful) spend considerable time trying to convince me that I needed to sleep in the same bed with my husband.

The biggest reason we ended up in separate rooms is because my H has major sleep problems. Really hard to sleep next to someone when you're always worried that you're going to wake them. Then once he's awake-forget sleep for me.

The other issue is temperature. Our house is too cold for me and too hot for him. Last night the AC was at 67 as usual, and as usual, he was saying he was hot. So he has a fan blowing at him at full speed in his room, and in my room I have a space heater and electric blanket going.

We also both snore, but that's less of an issue.

I do lie in bed and watch tv with him most nights. Also when age, weight, and meds are not screwing with our libidos too much, we manage a conjugal visit sometimes.

Do me a favor and speak up if this applies to you. I think it is more common than people think.