Fear is, in many way, good. We are humans of evolution. Some fears keep us safe. Such as the very typical "fear of the dark". We are, instinctively (well some of us), fearful of the dark because that is when attacks would happen thousands of years ago. We are fearful of heights because one may fall. Fears are not inherently unhealthy things. When a fear turns into an anxiety or phobia is a completely different thing. I thought I should just share this before the conversation continued.

As for me, I am not scared to die. I do not fear dying, or how my death may come about. I have had many life or death situations, and I have personally come to the conclusion that there is nothing to fear about personally dying. We achieve "eternal peace" if that is what you believe in (I do not). What gets left behind us, loved ones, etc, are the ones who have to deal with the outcome of death.

I think it is very healthy to fear the death of a loved one. As I stated previously, we are humans. We make connections to others. Especially within our families (be that chosen family or not). It is both perfectly logically sound and healthy to fear the death of someone we love.

For example, my brother was terminally ill. I was faced with the fact that he may be gone in an instant. And I worked, as my family did, to accept this. He did very early on. He said to us "I don't need to be scared. I'm not the one getting left behind." and this statement is very true. I do not know if it is fear or if it is instinctive to want our loved ones alive and safe, but it exists. I fear losing ones I love to terminal illnesses (they suffer. and they suffer terribly.) simply for the fact that they are terminal. And need to deal with this world where they know they will be leaving.

Death is a very complicated topic. There is no clean cut answers, nor are there anyways to avoid facing death in one way or another. The idea that fear is a hindrance to our personal potential, in my eyes, is a bit rubbish. I have found my bravery within my fears. And I am sure many others feel the same.