I forgot the name of this French writer... but he was a famous French writer who wrote a series of short novellas...

...so I will just tell the story as I remember if after 25 or so years that have passed since I read it...

...so there is war...

...and the king and his men are away...

...and the queen is at home (the home is a palace, of course)...

...for some reason, the king's chief helper (do not remember his title), in full military ammunition that was a uniform so everybody wore the same, including the king, pays a short visit to the palace before going back to join the soldiers... why - do not remember...

...and he makes love to the queen who thinks that she is making love to the king because he does not take off his ammunition...

...apparently, she had been the object of his silent, unconfessed love for a long time before the war began, and on that visit to the palace, he takes advantage of looking like the king...

...he makes love to her almost in silence, interrupted only by his moans (which are described by the French author as being very virile - his voice is low, powerful, rich and all the rest of that - picture that)...and then leaves the palace to join the soldiers...

...they win the war and everybody comes back home...

...including the king...

...and the king resumes making courteous, respectful, servile love to his queen...

...except she cannot care less for all of that...

...she wants him to go back to the man who made love to her with sheer abandon, never asking her idiotic questions about how she wants to be pleased...

...but she does not know how to tell him (and, in reality, since the knight who made love to her in that spectacular fashion was a different person, there was no way she could have told him, anyway).

END OF STORY

Is this kind of a story in need of props? well, yes, if you can buy knight's armor, then yes, it does...

Is this kind of a story in need of, ahem, communication? No, to the extent that communication is a two-way street. In this story, the knight might be roaring the words of his love and desire for the queen, which is a one way street. He does not ask her how to stimulate her organs, that is for sure. He does not check with her on how she is feeling. To put it this way - the knight is not looking for any input from the queen - he is just loving her passionately. Maybe he calls her by her first name, repeatedly but with a somewhat different intonation each time he utters her first name - that would be very passionate, but still would not require her input.

And that feels great to her, period. Better than anything else.

Because, going back to your situation - you made sure she would come first. Undoubtedly, you are a nice, polite, wonderful man - no question about that. But, to tell you the truth, orgasms can also be achieved via masturbation. A woman can masturbate towards orgasms no problem. But she cannot have the kind of unbridled passion from a virile man who loves her with abandon... by masturbating. For that kind of thing, she actually needs that MAN. No masturbation, no toys, no props, no high-tech tools with Wi-fi enabled, no nothing can replace that MAN.