One can have a nice wedding on a given budget.....your daughter needs to learn how to be responsible & how to budget money & stay within that budget given the limitation of what money is available.

My stbxh was just like your daughter & I finally left him because if his financial irresponsibility. They way that financial infidelity is just as bad on a marriage as sexual infidelity......& she's on the same road as my H was....wanting to spend more than they have & H not willing to say NO. He needs to become the leader of the family & they need to WORK TOGETHER for the financial good of their new family they are planning on building together.

I suggest David Ramsey's Financial Peace course.......there are some things that I don't agree with him, but most I do & even before I heard about his methods of getting out of debt, it was what I used given my common sense & my accounting degree I got at the univ.

I don't think my H's parents ever taught him anything about being responsible & it was a sure thing it wasn't something he ever learned on his own.....nor would he learn it from me when I went through the whole process with him of cleaning up our debt because when it came down him again after I my major depression hit....it was obvious that he hadn't learned a thing.....& even today at 60 & after I've left him 6 years ago, he's still being a complete financial idiot & his parents finally cut him off.

They not only need good pre-marital counceling so he can learn to say NO when he needs to & so they can learn to work together & they both need to learn how to have the same financial goals.....or there's really no need to bother getting married because they will only end up divorced......& I wouldn't give them a cent toward a wedding unless those criteria are met,,,,,1)pre-marital councelling 2)financial training on how to handle a household budget, savings & responsible spending.....& NO CREDIT!!!!!