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Originally Posted by growlycat
Hi MarsD-
If you like your T, transference can be worked through. It can become like dinner party music. The hard part is bringing up your feelings to T in the first place.
It can be so hard to find a T who is a good "fit"--I think I'd rather have a terrible crush than to have a cold T. (been there done that!)
I have talked through transference with my main T but not my cbt T. I think the crush is a good sign of warmth and trust developing in the relationship. Sure there may be painful moments, but I'm thinking it is worth it!
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Thanks for your reply growlycat.
Actually I am having a little difficulty completely putting my thoughts about her (they seem just barely feelings at this point but are getting there) into the "transference box" because there has not been quite enough development of trust from the initial meeting to make my thoughts feel like simply an outcome of therapy. You know what I mean? I sort of see her the way I expected to from my initial impressions.
I tell myself that the fact that I met her with even the express intention of having therapy with her, and meeting her in her office, automatically makes the attraction part of the therapy. However, I can't shake the sense of this being a contrived way of having to deal with the attraction just because it is the practical one. Ah, the game is so rigged!
I'm with you though; I would rather this, than having to work with someone who felt cold to me. Better a problematic attachment than none.