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Originally Posted by hamster-bamster
I THINK that LarSo did not mean opening the marriage, because of how he used the word PRIVATE in his post:
I might be wrong, of course.
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My mistake there, missed that word.
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Originally Posted by High Treason
I don't think there's anything wrong with it as long you make sure your wife never finds out. You have to be sure to be completely safe about it. For example, never have sex with anyone she knows, at all, ever. Never meet the people you are having sex with in locations she would ever go under any circumstances, and preferably not anywhere she knows that you go. If you communicate online with the people you are having sex with, be computer savvy enough to cover your tracks. By the way, is this post in your browser history? Basically, just be really smart about it. Always keep in mind how unhappy she would be if she found out. If you don't want her to be unhappy, you have to put in the effort to keep the affair a secret.
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He raises a point here.
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Originally Posted by LarSo
If you don't want to break a long-standing marriage for an older couple that's been good in all aspects but not in the last few years in sexual fulfillment for one partner, isn't it ok to have a private, outside sexual relationship?
If you can afford to have an outside sex partner, who is happy in that role, and the sexual satisfaction keeps your marriage, isn't that a good outcome?
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I get, now, what you mean. Glad I am no longer grappling with this thought process, but I get there are marriages where sex is not fulfilled in the marriage. I get the whole issue of 'morality' etc. If you can afford to keep a mistress, and this woman is ok in that role, and you feel that this woman, can handle it.
'good outcome' is subjective. However, it's possible. I believe that it's more successful in European culture, than it is in American culture.
I didn't go down the other woman path, and am glad I didn't. However, I was at a point in my life, where I really, felt that it's all that was available.
Let your mistress, know, there is support, just difficult to find.