I can relate to that. I think people try to put a positive spin on it because they don't know what else to do with that info. I'm sorry you are having such a rough time. When I was at my lower points, they would last for months and I would see no end to it. It never felt like it was getting better, but somehow it always eventually did. I would say I hit "rock bottom" about a half-dozen times in life so far, and each was different.
Are you in therapy? Can you talk to your therapist about all this? Is there anything that helps you get through the days - even if it feels stupid and like it only makes a tiny dent in the day? (I say it like that because I tend to feel that the things suggested to me to do are stupid, but it's because I'm in a depressive fog and can't see their value at the time). Sometimes it's the little things that help. I've found I value nature a lot, as well as time to myself. Even though I know it helps me balance, I find it hard to keep up with. If nature is something you find soothing, would it be possible to go spend some time outside? I like to take my coffee on the patio in the mornings to watch the sunrise and the world wake up. Sometimes I bring a dog or 2 out with me, and the outdoor cats will come join me. When I'm not depressed, I know how incredibly balancing this is to me, but when I'm down, I find it hard to do. Is there anything that helps you feel calm when you are not depressed? Can you try that? ((hugs))