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Originally Posted by High Treason
I don't think there's anything wrong with it as long you make sure your wife never finds out. You have to be sure to be completely safe about it. For example, never have sex with anyone she knows, at all, ever. Never meet the people you are having sex with in locations she would ever go under any circumstances, and preferably not anywhere she knows that you go. If you communicate online with the people you are having sex with, be computer savvy enough to cover your tracks. By the way, is this post in your browser history? Basically, just be really smart about it. Always keep in mind how unhappy she would be if she found out. If you don't want her to be unhappy, you have to put in the effort to keep the affair a secret.
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When I think of this plan, I see the following potential loopholes.
Money: I think it was in the 1997 that there was an article in Playboy (which my then husband then subscribed to but later stopped out of boredom with the "industry standard" women, and I can totally see how one would quickly become bored, so the fact that Playboy is still so popular cannot be explained, in my opinion). The article lamented how hard it had become to have mistresses. One of the bad guys contributing to the plight of modern mistress afforders was American Express. American Express, in the past, just sent high level statements. Then, it must have become itemizing those statements, thus providing easily traceable ... well, you know what I mean - if you go to a restaurant and pay with AmEx, then your wife gets to see it. So, Playboy advised cash dealings only. Playboy also advised no overtipping. They said that if you tip too generously, then the waiters will remember you, smile at you next time you come, and it would be impossible to claim that this is the first time you are visiting this restaurant. So, Playboy went, if you want to visit a restaurant both with a mistress and the wife, you need to pay cash and give modest tips to avoid attracting the attention of the waiters. But, High Treason has a better solution than the one offered by Playboy - he just says: "Never go into the same restaurant with mistresses and the wife. Play it safe."
OK, but it leaves us with the issue of cash. So if you routinely use cash in all transactions that you expense as "mistress-related" in your internal accounting, then the question is: "Where would the cash come from?" = Can you take sufficient cash withdrawals without making the wife suspicious?
I guess whether your bank accounts are joint matters. Or, perhaps cash simply grows on trees? If it does, let me know where those trees are located and I will be there in a split second...
On computer savviness - obviously use anonymous browsing (Safari Private Browsing, Chrome Incognito, and the like).
On phone logs - obviously, you can erase calls locally on the device (the phone, smart phone, or whatever you carry on yourself), but you cannot erase calls from the mobile provider's logs. Do you have your own plan? Usually spouses have a family plan...
I just invite you to think those steps through - those would constitute your new "double life". Think those steps through. Are they really worth it? You would be living the life of a spy, except that spies are compensated for by the intelligence agencies that hire them (and, ideally, double agents are doubly compensated), but nobody would compensate you... Think about whether you want to be on High Alert all the time...always trying to cover your tracks. Do you look forward to that kind of existence?