I don't know if it was just my dad's personality overpowering my mom's while I was growing up, or if she picked up his traits after being with him for so long, but she is exactly like him. It's scary. And it's so triggering. I don't want to spend time with her anymore. She evokes the same fear reaction my dad did/does...

I can't wait to move out again. I don't like this situation at all, and I don't like it for my family either. It was a stupid idea to move here. We are trapped at the moment however... ugh...

I feel bad because I left my wife out there to deal with my mom by herself. I will go back out later, but right now, she has my heart pounding and my head starting to space out... I need to ground before I go back out to the kitchen...

How can I gently broach it with my mom? How can I get her to see her behaviors are just like those she despised in my dad?