it is almost ten years since my partner passed away, and i still miss him like it was yesterday.
you will never totally stop missing him, you will however learn to live with the hole he has left in your life and with the pull he has on your heart.
i have learnt to accept that some days i will be fine, but some days i will miss him more and that it is ok to cry and to talk about him. you will never forget him and it is natural to miss him especially on special days like i know the days that will be difficult his birthday, death day funeral day , christmas etc, so now factor these into my life by taking them as me days (no work or visitors) so i can go with the flow, cry, visit his grave, send up a rocket or chinese lantern etc whatever i feel i need to do to make me feel ok the next day (it usually involves a lot of crying and a bottle of wine) i prepare my meals the day before so i don't have to shop or cook, and always end the day with a hot bubble bath surrounded by scented candles.
i have a glass lantern on my windowsil in which i place and light a tea light candle when i am really missing my man, it really helps.