My therapist wants me to call the sex educator, but I have no idea what to talk about. On Friday I went as far as a hand job with a guy I've known for a year (I've never seen or touched a penis before and it took me two hours of cuddling and fingering to get to that point) and I want him to be my first time. I talked to him about STD's and he said he's been tested and was clean, and I have inserted an IUD so I feel protected against both STD's and unwanted pregnancy. He is also someone I've dressed in full BDSM uniform in front of on several occasions for both his and my enjoyment, and we are both into the same kinky preferences and I've practiced using a flogger on him and have him used it on me (which is something I thought I could never do).

I guess I need to know how to mentally and physically prepare for the first time, but I feel that it's a stupid question to ask her. I really can't think of anything important to ask her.