(((((((((( withit )))))))))))

I'm not sure about the police situation. From my understanding, if an older child has abused another child and a parent calls, the police can get involved.

Asking for help from outside services (i.e. school counselor, mental health professional, etc.) doesn't mandate them removing your child. They want to help the child remain in the home.

On the other hand, they will have a focus of concern on the other child(ren) that he's possibly abusing.

They will have concerns. However, they will work with you on those concerns. If you're worried about the school counselors, can you contact a private therapist?

The bottom line is that it sounds like your son needs help if he's being violent (and those defenseless around him as well).

I would seek help for him and the entire family ASAP.

KD