She actually divorced my dad, but they hang out as friends now. She was alone for about 4 years. And in her 60's. I know it's stressful having all of us around, But it's hard to deal with her responses that are exactly verbatim what she hates when my dad says it. She still gets pissed at him when he says the same things around her. I'm trying to make it less stressful being here with her, But we have very different ideas of stress. I think we need to figure out some better ground rules. We moved in because the house is actually mine, and there is tons of space. She just got used to the whole house to herself in the last 4 years.
I really want to be able to have her see how she comes off to everyone else. I know it's mostly selfish reasons (because I moved out years ago to get away from this kind of environment), but she also just seems so miserable. She's always angry about everything, but she denies it. She noted up at the slightest annoyance. She had broken more things in the house in the last 4 year's than I think she's purchased (smashed out of anger). She's just like my dad was. And when she threatens my animals, I get totally triggered and protective. My animals took beatings from my dad in the past, and she scares me with her reactions that she will start that too. She was the recipient of some bad domestic violence. It's sad to see her engaging in the same behaviors... and it's insanely triggering. I know I should learn to respond differently, but it's really hard right now. :/