You say that you have a platonic relationship and have a special bond, yet refer to it as emotional infidelity. Have to ask if you "love him" or are "in love" with him. There's a big difference. It sounds to me like you and your husband have many issues besides him telling folks that you are BP. Are you committed to continuing the marriage because you love your husband or for some other reason? Seems to be that you are in a tough spot. I do hope you'll consider things thoroughly. Any chance of couples counseling?