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Originally Posted by riotgrrrl
Aside being continually hurt and feeling so wrong-footed by this chap of yours, please don't marry a man you do not know... as you've already admitted, you've seen each other twice. I am not belittling your feelings, goodness no, but you do not know each others real selves. If you stay with this man, please, live together first for a couple of years.. It's hard enough, it really is, without being near strangers.
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I do agree with you, but that's a problem, unfortunately. He's from the UK and he's coming here to live on a fiance' visa so we have to marry withing the 90 day requirement one he gets the visa. We do know each other...more than expected, but I agree on a daily basis it may get much more difficult since I'm just now seeing his pattern of idealization and devaluation...making me so sad, and it's so hard, with my own problems to deal with it. He's in full on retreat mode...and I think I'm going to let him.
Thanks for the reply tho, I appreciate your thoughts
