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Originally Posted by Muppy
You say that you have a platonic relationship and have a special bond, yet refer to it as emotional infidelity. Have to ask if you "love him" or are "in love" with him. There's a big difference. It sounds to me like you and your husband have many issues besides him telling folks that you are BP. Are you committed to continuing the marriage because you love your husband or for some other reason? Seems to be that you are in a tough spot. I do hope you'll consider things thoroughly. Any chance of couples counseling?
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Hi Muppy
You don't beat around the bush! The question on loving "him" or being in love is one i have asked myself over and over into the wee hours of many sleepless nights.....
My husband was my first love I met him when I was 17 he was 29 at that stage. I love him dearly. Our relationship have become stale. For instance he would regularly walk away while I was busy talking to him -( not just when he was stoned )
My "special friend" really wanted to listen to everything I had to say. He thinks I am fascinating and absorbing. He really saw the person that I am. He appreciated "me". Something I haven't felt with my hubby in years. He is an incredibly interesting person with the most beautiful heart. Still, is it infatuation or love?.... Lets see how I feel after week 6 on the meds...I think it is possible to love more than one man.... But I am all for monogamy physically if you know what I mean.
My husband has pulled out the "big guns" on improving and saving our relationship. I think he realises that he has neglected me. I will show him the same respect and put in effort ( not that I have much energy - my attitude is wrong - too little too late ) That needs to change immediately
Thank you for hitting the nail on the head. It is definitely a topic that needs to be resolved.
Thank you for the reply!