I too am so sorry for what you are having to go through. I do have to agree with ultramar about her casting herself as the victim and if she has done this there is no way she is going to change. She will just blame everyone else. Mixing wine with her meds is really asking for trouble. I bet you feel like you are just walking on egg shells around her and that is no way to live for you or the kids. I hope this may help in some small way to know that people do care and are here for you. I wish you the best.