I am sorry you are faced with such decisions. I'm not sure why the therapst would have terminated - it sounds like your son was not in any condition to have therapy/intervention terminated !!

I would not wait for "the next time" or for when someone may become physically injured - I would get him into an out patient or residential treatment program ASAP. Twelve years old is too old to be acting like that. If someone gets injured - then he will be in loads of trouble.. plus someone innocent will be injured/tramatized.

Your daughter is probably needing some attention as well - it can't be good for her to be treated this way by her brother. Perhaps whatever treatment facility you can get with can also provide some help for her as well.

I'm not from NY and have no idea if police in your area would be helpful in getting your son in treatment or not. I don't think your son needs to be given a scare by police to snap out of whatever he is going through - it sounds like he needs help. Jails are not usually places for help - they are places to keep those who are dangerous away from the rest of us. But I'm thinking you probably want more than that for your son - you want him to be someplace where he can get help and everyone can stay safe.

Can you call the therapst he was working with and ask for a referal ?? Can you contact your pediatrician and/or family doctor and get a referal. Not sure if you are under private insurance, but usually insurance requires a pre-authorization and probably has preferred treatment facilities. Call and get your son in treatment as soon as you can.

best of luck -
peanuts