Congratulations on getting your college degree. Sounds like you have been through a lot during your life and it can't be easy living with a disability. I'm so your family cannot see the progress you have made in your life to try and be independent. It seems your family wants to be supportive but don't know how. They don't realize you have grown up and need to be treated as an adult not like a helpless child. It is hard to change other peoples views, but as you continue to assert yourself and stand up for yourself more. I think they will see the change, but it may take a while. They seem to love you and that is what is important for you to realize they do things for you because they love you. Accept gracefully.
Gayle