well, this is a no go - he is married with two young children. A lovely guy who seems so enthusiastic and could not stop talking about how glad he was that we'd finally connect after close to a year. But I am not getting into any messy Indo-European melodramas on American land.

That is OK - at least I have crossed that hurdle in my mind. And, locked eyes with another Indian man at work (this one I saw for the first time and probably will never see again, but it does not matter - what matters is that I have removed that block of "ethnic discrimination" from my mind).

To somebody who said that this is a preference to not consider people of certain races sexually - I do not see it as a preference. It can be a preference if somebody CAN think of people of some races sexually but PREFERS not to. In my case, I could not even consider. I did not reach that point where one can talk about "preferences".