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Originally Posted by skysblue
I had always believed that I would be in control of my own weaning from my therapist. I envisioned that we could eventually cut back on sessions - from once a week to twice a month and then possibly only once a month.
But, no - I am facing a quick 'termination' because I'm moving out of the area. So, I only have 2 or 3 sessions left.
How does a person leave a close relationship like this so suddenly? I know. I know. - she's only my therapist but to be honest she is the only person I will miss when I move. I'll be relocating to where most of my family and friends live.
Close to 3 years we've worked together. She has literally and figuratively saved my life. She is the person who has helped guide me to my authentic self.
I can't imagine how I'll manage this loss. Even those weeks in which I thought I didn't need to see her, KNOWING that she'd be available for me if a need arose has always been comforting.
I know I'll be fine. But there is a grief felt.
When I mentioned Skype sessions, she was kind enough to tell me she'd consider it but I can see that she's not thrilled by the idea. Maybe she'll be more open to offering telephone sessions.
She did talk about me finding a therapist in my new area. I didn't like hearing that at all. It was like she was already saying goodbye.
But she was gentle and kind and she WILL help me through this. Maybe she suspects that once I move that my need for her will decrease - simply by my lifestyle change. idk
Has anyone been forced to make a fast 'termination' because of moving? How did it work out?
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I'm sorry that you have to quit therapy so suddenly. I'm just wondering how this move could have come up so quickly. I don't mean to pry, just hope everything is all right!
Skype involves preparation so maybe your T will let you have phone sessions. Didn't you have phone sessions when you were away for a long time a couple of years ago? I think that's a good idea, at least for a awhile, or as needed.
What about emailing? Will she allow that, or isn't it an option?
You're a wonderful writer. Maybe it would be productive if you wrote your answers to some of the questions JayneJ posted so you can discuss them in your last few sessions. I don't know if you answered in the thread about how you'd want your last session to be. What would you like to happen? What do you want to tell her that you haven't already?
Grief is normal when you're leaving any long-term relationship, even with a T. I quit my first T suddenly after about 3 years and I cried that whole first night, even though it was my choice to leave. It took a long time to grieve.
I think you'll be fine too. You're doing what you want with your life and living with the partner who makes you happy. I imagine that your T will know what to say and do to make your termination with her easier. She's always sounded like a great T! I hope you're going to post here and tell us how you are.