Well, being that I am in the midst of one and T was there for me Friday and Saturday this past weekend, I can give you my observations of it all and how I see he put boundaries in place. First off, he made sure that I knew that emails are for information exchanges and that he will not always respond to the emails I send him.. I tell him something, like I had a break down with MC.. He will say something encouraging like don't let the emotions you are feeling overwhelm you, and we can talk about it in our next session. So, when I am feeling overloaded I am more than welcomed to email and tell him something to get it off my chest.. He can choose to respond or not.

Calling outside of sessions- I call and leave a message with receptionist he generally calls back when he has time. Now this has something my is notoriously bad at! He will admit that he is terrible at returning phone calls, but in general if I say it is urgent he will try to get back to me faster than if I just said, please have t call me back. Also, I found that if I REALLY need to talk to him I can let the receptionist know that and they will be sure to let T know, instead of leaving a note in the box for T to pick up. When he does return phone calls, they are never more than about 10mins.. Friday when I was in crisis- our phone call was done right at 10 mins and I am pretty sure that is the longest we had ever been on the phone.. and I am sure that is quit purposeful.. He has said it with email and phone calls he doesn't necessarily want to bring therapy into those to forms of communication.

Finally, with texting.. This is rather new for me in terms of T. T just said to me today actually that he is letting his clients text him more in more as it is easiest way to get a hold of him, especially in crisis. He texted me Saturday morning after a tough day/night Friday and a promise I would be safe for the night. So, the next morning the exchange was.. How are you doing today? Me: better than yesterday. T: Good, I am glad you are feeling better very short and to the point. And when he first gave me his cell phone number he made sure to point out this wasn't to Text and say hey did you watch that show last night or something, lol. So, I see T put boundaries in place on the length of email, text messages, how much time he is on the phone and by choosing when he can return phone calls, emails, etc.