I do think you instinctively know, and also I think you get "stuck" at the age of the worst trauma. For me, life was really hard as a teen, my father's mental state was really bad, he was horribly emotionally abusive. I feel like I was stuck at about 16. Never felt like a grown man really, felt stuck at about 16. The age when he really tormented me, wanted me to stay away from my mom. Found out later he accused us if having sex, which was completely in his mind but really angered and hurt me when I found out.

Grew up a lot in the last year, I feel like a man, not a kid.