Well yeah, your dad was a jerk to say that to you. I finished my bachelor's degree while working full time and going to school full time, and I maintained a straight-A average till my 2nd to last class. When I told my dad, he said, "A 3.9 isn't very good."

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By that point, I was able to roll my eyes and blow it off, but I was well into adulthood. Had he said it 10 years earlier, I would have been crushed.

It sounds to me like you have just become used to and resigned to his behavior. It can be hard to feel anything for people who have abused us somehow -- it can take a long time to learn to feel anger on your own behalf, even if other people feel it for you.

Candy