Honestly no but if it's working for you then go with it. You can get the rest of it later. I don't think toughness is a male/testosterone thing. I know some very tough women.
I do agree with your thoughts on your father though. My father was overbearing and emotionally closed except when he was drinking. I'm not sure if what he did was abuse or neglect. He just wasn't a good father. He never said the things your father said though. That would be devastating emotionally. I think you could have just as easily become exactly like your father. Your father was tough right? Would you really want to be like him?
So I really think you're ahead of the game. Having a good father is a great shortcut to being a man. It isn't the only path though. Overcoming adversity develops toughness. When you get there you'll have your toughness and your sensitivity. You'll be a much better man than your father.