Sorry about the loss of your mum, I appreciate how difficult, it truly is, mine passed over a little over 3 years ago. I also, have a hard time talking about it, releasing feelings, etc.

One thing, about vulnerability, is, it IS very scary, indeed! I'm learning, as I navigate a new relationship. Just had a vulnerable moment, yesterday. I'll explain, that using that word, Hun, I am feeling vulnerable, this is what I fear...(insert your fear, highlighted above). Deep down, I know you wouldn't do this, but 'I am trying to get to the root of this fear in therapy'(or in my case, gave specific reasons for those fears, which were based on life experiences from my past.) And to alleviate this feeling, these needs weren't met there, and this is what I need. (it was really, a very simple need for myself, but the vulnerability from past hurts was at first mystifying. The feelings were fear).

In opening up, like that, to your partner, who you seem to hint at as being respectful and compassionate, you may discover a deeper trust and understanding. And your partner, may express feeling closer to you, for just being honest.



Not sure, where you get these fears that you have. Sound like some pretty heavy 'tapes' being replayed in your head. Was someone, in your past dismissive of your emotions, childhood/adolescence?

You don't have to have a complete break down, to feel, your emotions. Can always let them out, in spurts. There's no wrong or right way to grieve.