You're very wise... please use that to get out now. You already know that what he is doing is unacceptable, and please don't stay any longer because it'll get worse and harder to leave.
I know you love him, but sometimes - and this is one of those times - love isn't enough. He's not showing you a healthy love either, he'd never lay a finger on you otherwise. Even if he wanted/could change his behaviour (which is rare) he shouldn't be in a relationship until he can be trusted and should be seeking professional help. It could take years.
Please, please look after yourself. Make yourself number one, nobody deserves to be living like this. Am so sorry, it's a hard situation to be in. Have you friends you can talk to, family? Talk to them, let them help you.

Hugs.