I took your OP to be you're seeing a trained sex therapist who's specialty is giving advice about sex...like the well known Dr Ruth who used to be on TV. Its not a sex surrogate who is trained to help a person with sex. I understand what you said and your therapist referred you to this person .....because its not her specialty and probably felt conflicted. She probably felt this would ease your concerns and its perfectly fine and wish more young people thought this out thoroughly like you. Hope this makes you feel better and keep this thread going.