Well wait - you did say you wanted romance and a big engagement ring on the vision board - those things kind of imply another person or a relationship, don't they? She saw what was missing - she's asking how do you get the first two without a guy, and why were you overlooking that. You explained here why you overlook it - you've had the ring twice and the guys were problematic. So the board wasnt such a bad idea in that it certainly hilited that issue. But it was a bad idea in that it's not promoting the therapeutic alliance between you two. Working for the county, she is probably under time constraints, so is trying to find out as much as she can about you as quickly as possible.