Hamster-bamster - you are correct. Even though my daughter, while physically 14 is emotionally closer to 12, is still more mature about many things than my 41 year old Aspie spouse.

The Facebook groups I am part of, closed and private groups, have confirmed they all go thru similar issues with their Aspie spouses, so I know I'm not alone in this. What I don't understand is how absolutely blind my husband can be. I tell him what he needs to do, yet he still doesn't do it. Our counselor is afraid my husband's "learning curve" my be greater then my patience. He gives me credit for still trying.

Even though each individual with AS is different, they do possess some similarities. Those similarities are what we talk about in the Fb groups, and how to cope with them better. Some have spouses that will openly admit they are having a melt down, or they just had one. My husband doesn't really have melt downs,but he completely withdraws into himself. It would be nice if he would take responsibility for his actions. Honestly, I think if he started doing that, and started learning how to make amends when he makes mistakes, I could probably work around many of his other traits because he can be a very kind a caring man.