Yes I do know what you mean. My intrusive thoughts were hardly ever me being the instigator. I know I would never do bad things so that was never a worry. Mine were things I found possible because they do happen...like being one of the victims of a school shooting... Now they are more at home like letting myself get carried away with possibilities of what my husband thinks and feels and acts when i'm not around. When I have anything that makes me scared, worried, anxious, stressed, etc. I feel compelled to do different things, but usually just to get me out of my head. Most of my compulsions are based on feeling like yours. I was once told that if it's not disrupting your life, it's border-line, on the border...I don't believe that for a minute. There are more minor and more major cases for sure though. I have a very extensive list of compulsions and I'm sure there are some i'm not aware of.