How long has she been on her meds? It can take up to a week or so for them to kick in.

You should see what her therapist has to say about her working around cops. They seem to trigger her hypomania.

In my case, clubs, especially strip clubs always triggered my mania. I have to stay away from them, even though I have been on medication for years. In fact, it is the meds that allow me to stay away from actively seeking out my triggers. Hopefully that will be the case for your wife once she gets stable on the meds.

It sounds like you have been her point of stability. It says something about you that you would stick with her despite some very hurtful behavior. Everyone here will tell you that dealing with BP is worlds easier when you have a rock in the middle of the storm. Hang in there. Getting the diagnosis is the biggest step.