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Originally Posted by amandalouise
another day I was exhausted, up all night with the twins and didnt know what I wanted to do with my therapy time. I sat there and didnt talk, my therapist doesnt believe in bribing, and other tactics to get a person to talk, if a person is ready to talk they will do so you cant force people to be the way you want them to be. so my therapist looked at me and got up and went to her desk and made some calls. this way if I wanted to waste my therapy session on not working on any of my mental health issues I could and she could choose to not waste her time by getting some other work completed. which is perfectly acceptable for us. I ended up falling asleep, got some much needed rest and she got her work caught up.
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Amandalouise, I am glad that you have found something that works for you. May I ask what it is about going to these sessions-- when you choose not to talk and, instead, do something like take a nap while T makes phone calls-- that helps you? I'm genuinely curious. What is it that makes going to T in these moments more helpful than staying at home and taking that nap in your bed? I understand those who have difficulty talking and benefit from T just sitting with them in empathy-- because, if you haven't experienced empathy before, that can be helpful-- or because you need to build up trust before you can do trauma work. But since you find it helpful for your T to do other things with her time instead of sit with you, what is it about those sessions that you find beneficial (and worth the cost, since it is so expensive)? I'm glad they are helpful to you-- I'm just curious how so. After all, we all respond well to different things.
OP, please do update us. I'm curious to know what happened at your next session, and whether or not you talked to T about her taking that call.