Hello, Bawb3.
I hope you find feedback here at PC forums. Here are some links that you might find helpful and a start to finding the answers to the situation you have described.
http://forums.psychcentral.com/depre...ort-group.html
Coping with Emotions - Forums at Psych Central
Caregivers Support - Forums at Psych Central
Note: This last link above relates to you and your family needing to have some respite for yourselves and appropriate self care as well.
I am hoping other PC members will help provide you with feedback that will help you and your family come up with an appropriate solution. Take care.
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