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Originally Posted by scorpiosis37
Amandalouise, I am glad that you have found something that works for you. May I ask what it is about going to these sessions-- when you choose not to talk and, instead, do something like take a nap while T makes phone calls-- that helps you? I'm genuinely curious. What is it that makes going to T in these moments more helpful than staying at home and taking that nap in your bed? I understand those who have difficulty talking and benefit from T just sitting with them in empathy-- because, if you haven't experienced empathy before, that can be helpful-- or because you need to build up trust before you can do trauma work. But since you find it helpful for your T to do other things with her time instead of sit with you, what is it about those sessions that you find beneficial (and worth the cost, since it is so expensive)? I'm glad they are helpful to you-- I'm just curious how so. After all, we all respond well to different things.
OP, please do update us. I'm curious to know what happened at your next session, and whether or not you talked to T about her taking that call.
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lol i didnt start out going so that I could take a nap while my therapist made phone calls. I went just like any one else would, I had an appointment, so I went to the appointment even though I didnt know what I wanted to work on. I bet if you read more posts here in this forum you will find more posts by people who have had this same problem where they get to therapy and have so much going on that they dont know what they want to do with their therapy time. I had closed my eyes to think and just fell asleep.
question...how does it make you feel when you know someone is watching you or staring at you? not a comfortable feeling is it. my therapist knows that kind of thing makes me uncomfortable. so rather than the two of us sitting there wasting our time with a "staring contest" she gives me the space and time I need to think and i give her the time she needs to do other parts of her job when I dont need her right next to me staring/watching me.
by the way my therapist doesnt make major phone calls, the phone calls she makes are things like calling a supply store where she gets therapy supplies from, scheduling things that she needs to attend to, and she doesnt always just make phone calls, sometimes she does paper work other times she organizes her files, makes coffee, cleans out things and other stuff that may be done while I just sit, just be, or think of something to work on.
I personally dont have a problem with my therapist calling the therapy supply shop while Im sitting on her couch trying to figure out what I want to do with her that day.
like I said for some people this kind of thing is ok, appropriate and with others its not.