I'm glad you felt able to open up here, and feel a lot of sympathy for your position. It's great that you've recognised the problem and that you've stepped back from the work for now, because working on your own issues first, deeply, is paramount.

For many people including myself, and I suspect you as well, we feel compelled subconciously to try and provide for other people what we cannot provide for ourselves. For example giving sympathy to others when really we need to receive sympathy, but we're not able to ask for or accept it at that point. This often has very deep and complex roots in childhood. Perhaps this is what drew you to counselling in the first place.

I think it's really important to find a therapist you are comfortable with, and delve into this issue. It won't be easy, but it will be hugely rewarding and worthwhile.