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Originally Posted by RiversideGuy
My wide and I have been married 12 years, I'm 38 and my wife and I have two small boys ages 7 & 9 living with us. Recently I told my wife of my desire to learn how to ride a motorcycle. I signed up for a motorcycle class so I can properly learn how to ride. I explain to her that I was thinking of purchasing a motorcycle AFTER taking the class and wanted to know what she thought. Well she disagreed and days later sent me this email...I thought her email was insensitive and downright mean.
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Based on motorcycle accident statistics, I have to make it known that I
will not be taking care of you in any capacity if any loss of limbs or
life function occurs as a result of a motorcycle accident. I am not in
agreement for the purchase of a motorcycle by the father of 2 small
children and the major earner of income for the household. Obviously any
loss of limb or function would cause great duress to the household and a
major loss of income. I would strongly urge you to purchase extra life
insurance, disability insurance and nursing home insurance.
So basically, if I'm severely injured she won't care for me and I'll be stuck in a nursing home without my spouse by my side...
What's your take on this?
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My take is to ask why she is sending you email. Your communications should be face-to-face if you are living in the same house. This is something to work on.
Is your wife able to support herself and the children in the event something should happen to you? If she has skills, certifications, training--are they current so that she could start working immediately if need be? If not, take the money you would spend on a motorcycle and get her what she needs to be self-supporting. This is a true gift of love. If she is disabled and cannot work, then invest in an insurance policy that would support her and the boys until they are old enough to take care of themselves.
If
you would care for your wife should
she become disabled through any means, tell her you would and tell her you are disappointed she doesn't feel strongly enough about you to 'move mountains' for you.
When I was married it was my commitment to my husband that I would
and did sacrifice for him. He did not feel the same about me and he eventually walked out.
I am not shocked or horrified that you want to ride a motorcycle--if I had better balance
I'd want to ride one, too. But I think you have some other priorities that need to be met before you
buy one. Nothing wrong with you taking classes, though! I hope this helps.