Sometimes, we have trouble saying things in person that we must say or we seeth and become angry and bitter. You wife really wanted to let you know what she thought and she did it in the only way she could at the time. Maybe a bit strong but she said what sheneeded to say, like a mama bear protecting her cubs

My husband used another method to express disapproval when my son wanted a motorcycle. Told my son to vome woth him to the funeral home to pick out his casket first.

I think no matter the written wordd yoor wife is telling you she loves you and doesn'twant to lose you.