Stuffed, you sound like a lovely person and i think you have the makings of an excellent therapist. I think a lot of therapists find it hard when people cry because the natural reaction is to want to hug them or soothe them in someway and a lot of theory says a therapist should sit there and allow the client to go thru the process WITH the therapist and feel "held" in the room, given space to cry and physical soothing can interrupt the process. That's not an easy thing to do; to sit there while another human is in pain.

It sounds like you have quite a bit of your own work to do in therapy which i think you'll find so worthwhile. You will learn so much from that and it will be invaluable to your career and to you as a person- it's a win win situation.

On another note, i would NEVER go to a therapist if i knew they hadn't been thru their own therapy. Simply because if they've never been the client how can they truly know how it is to sit there and be vulnerable. If they haven't faced/acknowledged their own demons, then how do i know that they won't bring their stuff into my therapy? How can they know the therapeutic relationship and process if they haven't experienced both sides of the coin?