There are certain non- negotiables in a marriage and you have encountered one here. Your wife is saying she absolutely does not approve of a pleasure activity that puts your life and the welfare of your wife and children at risk. You need to hear that and prioritize.

When I met my husband 27 years ago, he claims I said I would never marry a smoker. My family has a very high incidence of cancer, so I have little patience with people engaging in such a high risk activity. just a personal thing for me. I completely believe I said it; I just don't remember the conversation.

I had no idea that he was a smoker at the time, so I wasn't specifically directing that comment at him. it was more a general conversation we were having very early in getting to know each other, but he told me later he never picked up another cigarette. His priority was to be with me always, and he made a decision that day that his future with me was his priority.

Your wife is telling you that you need to place the future of your family above your pleasure activity. She's saying prioritizing your future and the future of your family must come first here. This is her non-negitiable.