I understand how you feel. I'm that way too. I can be a little to honest too quickly though. On my first date with my husband he got an earful about how crazy my family and I are and practically a novel on it lol...and yet he married me...maybe he's the crazy one . anyway, I think you are making a good decision to talk about it. But I don't see why his T would have a problem with him disclosing things he's done while in the relationship. Usually secrets of this nature are much much more harmful than knowing about it. That's not to say that he is obligated to tell you about every event in his past in specifics if he's not ready, although I do agree that there are certain things you should be at least partially aware of....say, prison time.