I don't think there's anything wrong with finding it easier to talk to strangers online than real-life people who know you, I feel exactly the same. If there weren't a lot of people like that then online support forums wouldn't exist!

I think it may well translate. And people here can help you with ways to communicate with your T. I know some people print off their posts to show them. For me it started with writing - well actually before that it started with being honest with myself. My first aim was "I can lie T, but I won't lie to myself anymore." Then "I'll write about stuff, but with as many disclaimers and minimising adjectives as I need". Then "I'll talk to him, but make him close his eyes and face the other way while I do it."

So I think all this time getting your thoughts and feelings laid out in writing is very positive work.