If your gf had been with anyone, but this friend of yours, would you still have these thoughts going through your head?

I don't know what I'd do, if someone was having such obsessive images of me together with my exh. I think things would be destroyed. I am a divorced woman, had kids with that man, it's part of my past.
People these, days, many come with their own pasts.

Are you worried that there's more to the story than the 4 to 5 times, in one year story? I don't know, that's such a small number, when considering the reality of the numbers game with divorced individuals.

When, as adults, we get involved with a new person. It's a matter of accepting, yes, there was a past. It's over now. I don't want my past destroying a chance, at love, anymore than they do.

Are you worried, there's feelings still there, between her and your friend??? As in, why are they still friends now, type of thinking??