Tollhouse, that sounds awful. I think it's worth talking to your T about it and seeing if there's any kind of explanation, which there really ought to be - but I wouldn't blame you if you wanted to find someone new.

Just to be clear: I'm not saying I don't believe you. But please do talk to your T. I've had so many experiences where my T hasn't said what I think he has, or spoken in the way I think he has. I hope that's what's happened here.