Though we have fantasys of what we'd like to do when we're angry. We actually wouldn't.
The only way I've worked through is to verbalise it. Nothing gets processed unless we convert the energy into words and have them heard.
I've told T I want to smash her face in. I have a skilled T that allows all anger to be expressed. As a child I had to suppress that anger.
Now that I'm allowed it,it at first felt like I would explode. Now afteryrs of expressing, I greet it freely. I know it, it's no longer alien. Which makes it manageable.