everyone's advice to leave an abuser is appropriate. 1 in 3 women are physically assaulted in their lifetime. A one-time physical assault can result in death. Abusers are full of rage (they OWn ISSUES) AND rarely change unless they believe they have a problem and get into therapy. Anger management rarely works because the abuser doesn't really believe they have a problem. Every one else has a problem in their minds. The original poster knows this isn't right....She needs to call the domestic violence hotline and/or women's shelter for help in getting out of this violent situation. He "can't learn to fix " himself.

The reactions here are NOT extreme. They are valid. It is not going to get better, and hopefully she will reach out for help to get away before she ends up another murder statistic...