Hey there, welcome to PC!

Hm, that sounds like an awful situation to be in with your mother. It doesn't sound like abuse to me, but it does sound like your mother is controlling and ovrbearing and if she does t watch what she's doing, it could eventually become abuse.

Perhaps you can write your mother a formal letter explaining the behaviors that she has that you would want changed because of the way they make you feel? Otherwise it may help to sit your mother down and talk one to one with no distractions around.

I hope it helps! Take care!